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“do you have what it takes to live in Costa Rica?”
Many of you who have been coming to Costa Rica or studying about the
country think you know what life is “really” like here. You have
been here perhaps 3-4 times, have driven all around the country,
have spent time with Ticos and consider some of them your close
friends. Maybe some of you have even bought property here and are
looking forward to ultimately retiring here or building a vacation
home. So obviously you know the country pretty well, right?
Guess again.
Until you have actually lived here for an extended period you will
have no truly accurate picture of life here.
When Rhonda and I first moved here we heard “stories” about life
here that were simply too difficult to swallow…things like:
1. Ticos will tell you what they “think” you want to hear. NOT
lies, mind you, but simply the answer that they
think will please you the most. “this is preposterous” you say.
Well, I agree because I said it too. Trouble is, there is a lot of
truth to it.
2. Almost all American products in Costa Rica like appliances
are “seconds”. Another “preposterous” you say. Well, guess what…this
is another statement that I laughed at but which has turned out to
be true. Because there are fewer regulations and requirements such
as exist in the States, things such as appliances are made cheaper
because they cost less to make. It is all about money.
3. There are standard jokes about “Tico time”…the fact that
Ticos operate on different clocks and standards than gringos. Get
used to it. If you cannot accept the fact that your Costa Rican
friends will always be late…then you will have problems adjusting.
It is part of the culture and it will not change…for you or for
anyone else.
4.
You have heard the jokes about the long lines and the bureaucracies
being almost maddening…well, they are true. I personally have a
horrible time with lines and simply send someone else so that I will
not put myself in a situation which I know (for me) is almost
intolerable. It is totally illogical to me that a bank will make
a potential depositor wait in line for six hours to open an account…but
it happens almost every time. It is illogical that you cannot get
a cell phone unless you follow very specific, totally nonsensical
directions ( by the way, even Ticos will agree that these “rules”
make no sense) and have to wait for hours and sometimes even days to
get a cell phone or number. For me, this is one of the more
difficult areas of Costa Rica to accept and the hardest to adjust to.
Ticos? I have seen Ticos standing in line for literally hours and
show no signs whatsoever of impatience. Are Ticos different? In
this regard , yes. But remember, this is one of the reasons that
so many of us move down… to slow down. But man, it is hard
sometimes.
5. Ticos truly have the misconception , nearly all of them, that
“gringos” are rich. No matter what is said, the “gringos all have
money trees back home.”
6. Ticos are, for the most part, very passive. They are not
aggressive …and this is one of the many features
that so many of us love about Costa Ricans. BUT watch out when on
the roads…Ticos are absolutely horrible drivers…the meekest Tico
will become a Mario Andretti behind the wheel and not only pass on
blind curves but put everyone else at risk on the road as well.
Defensive driving here is a must.
7. There IS crime in Costa Rica…and it has gotten worse in the
past few years. Is it worse than many other places? Probably not.
But many gringos who live here and remember a virtually crime free
country from just a few years ago…are horrified that the crime rate
has increased. It is probably much better than most other places
in the world…but it does exist.
8. Ticos speak Spanish. Stupid thing to say, no? Well, in
reality, many people simply cannot adapt to the fact that Spanish is
spoken by everyone. I personally am hard of hearing so becoming
fluent in Spanish is extremely difficult for me. But I have seen
people that simply could not accept the fact that the language and
the culture is completely different and that they would never be a
total part of it. And this person was one who had literally
studied Costa Rica and had dreamed of living here all of his life.
9.
Despite the apparent similarities between Ticos and gringos…and most
will say that there are very little differences ( at first
comparison ) …the differences are HUGE. Cultures are very
different and, even though there are a great many things in common,
there are huge differences as well. This absolutely has to be
accepted … and for clarification, ask any gringo who has lived in
Costa Rica for at least five years…You will have trouble getting
them to shut up with the diatribe.
Can you adapt? I have been amazed at the number of people who do
and amazed at the number of people that I would have bet heavy money
on… who have not. I wish that there was an aptitude test to take
to predict whether or not one could be “happy” or content in Costa
Rica… and I have actually seen such questionnaires. I remember
that I failed it.
In my opinion, the essential qualities for success here are simple:
a sense of adventure is crucial, patience, and more than anything a
willingness to accept that which is different or new…and tolerance.
If you have these qualities, you will do well here.
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